Retrosexuals ‘R Us

The emergence of the metrosexual as the leading character trait for males at the Democratic National Convention has lead to a resurgance of a counter movement called retrosexuals. Numerous bloggers are jumping on the bandwagon. Columnist Mark Steyn discusses the problem indirectly while deriding metrosexuals or “girlie men” and Michelle Malkin comes down on the side of Retrosexuals in her No Girlie Men Allowed posting.

What is a retrosexual? It is someone who believes in the retro idea that Biblical sexuality and morality is the right approach to sexual identity and sexual activity for men. In this age of mega sexual discovery, Joseph Farah of WND waded through all of the various new sexual identities (homosexuals, bisexuals, lesbians, transsexuals, transgendereds, metrosexuals, and whatever else is out there) last April and decided nothing quite fit him. After some reflection, he determined he was a retrosexual, a biblical and traditional male reared in the feminine honoring tradition of Western Civilization (somewhat in line with Mark Simpson’s application of the term as anti-metrosexual). Back when I read Farah’s article I said count me in, in spades.

At the time, upon reflection, I discovered it was time for me to reexamine my commitment to the newly identified retrosexual lifestyle–not an easy task. It meant taking responsibility for being the provider of my family, of considering my wife worthy of the supreme sacrifice and all of the little sacrifices leading up to the big one (he who is faithful in little…), of treating my wife, my daughter, and indeed all women with the utmost dignity and respect. In short, it meant being both reliable and accountable. My wife is holding me to task on that commitment, as well she should. Tonight she decided that if I didn’t come and open the car door for her she would just stand there until I did. You go girl!

One group that seems to fit the retrosexual label is Promise Keepers, especially their fourth promise, “A Promise Keeper is committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection and biblical values.” No wonder retrosexuality is not popular in our culture and instead is derided as “a man with an undeveloped aesthetic sense who spends as little time and money as possible on his appearance and lifestyle”.

No matter. What is right is right and if you want to be tight with God, slackers need not apply! He expects total commitment and being a real man means giving it all. So, calling all real men. It is time to measure up, to check yourself to see if you are fit for the task. If you think you might be a retrosexual or even think you might want to be a retrosexual then I challenge you to take stock of yourself. Putting a twist on the old Army commercial, “Get tight with God and be all you can be”. Be a real man, be a retrosexual.

Update: If you have come here from the XXIX Christian Carnival, welcome. I hope you enjoyed my submission. If you did, I invite you to browse some of my other postings. Click here to go the home page of my little blog. Also, don’t be afraid to leave a comment. I really enjoy interacting with those who visit here. Remember, there is no such thing as a dumb question, only impolite answers, which I endeavor never to give.

P.S. As I told the Carnival host, Neil, in a comment, I am all for good shirts and decent shoes and being dressed decently so your wife is never embarrassed to be with you. I would go so far as to say having a decent suit and at least one really good tie is a must (mine is a Gerry Garcia tie that I am told is still servicable ;-). For me retrosexuals are more about being what God intended us men to be and while fashion isn’t directly talked about in the bible, Paul did say in 1 Cor 9:22 “I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some.”

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Update 6/27/05: Welcome to those coming from As you can see there is more to the concept, much more, than the limited caricature expressed in the article that brought you here.

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